Self-Talk Videos

Self-talk is not something you notice once and fix for good. It is a habit, and habits are built by repetition: in the sentence you keep repeating to yourself, and in what you watch, read and practise. These videos are short bite-sized pieces of information that will help with negative self-talk.

What you tell yourself shapes how you feel. How you feel shapes what you do. What you repeatedly do shapes the results you create. Self-talk sits at the start of that chain, and video is simply another way to catch it while it is happening, not after.

New videos will appear on The Self-Talk Effect YouTube channel and you can subscribe here. I will include some of them here as they are published, so this page will keep growing. If a pattern, worry or moment keeps coming up for you (before a hard conversation, after a mistake, in the middle of procrastinating) there is a good chance there is already a written guide for it on the blog, and a video will follow it.

If you watched a video here and recognized your own sentence, the next step is usually one of two things: catching it as it happens, or breaking the loop it sits inside.

The Sentence Catcher tool (built into the Understanding Negative Self-Talk guide) walks you through catching a sentence, naming the feeling it creates, and rewriting it before it becomes an action you will regret. The Loop Breaker (inside Stop Negative Self-Talk) does something similar for the sentences that repeat: it spots the loop markers in your own language and helps you build a clearer question to ask instead. And if the sentence you are stuck on is less about what you are thinking and more about why you cannot start, The First Step (inside You Know What to Do But Still Don't Start) turns the moment itself into a plan.

Some of these videos walk you through a specific sentence and show you what to ask instead of what to force yourself to believe. Others sit alongside a tool or workbook on this site, giving you a few minutes of practice to watch before you sit down and do the work yourself. None of them ask you to repeat affirmations you do not believe. They ask you to notice the sentence, and try a better question in the moment it shows up.

Every tool is built from the same workbook content behind The Self-Talk Effect: your language, not a script.

If you are newer here, the guides on the blog are the best place to start; each one focuses on a single sentence pattern (procrastination, imposter syndrome, the inner critic after a mistake) and shows you exactly what to ask yourself instead. From there, the Shop has the full guides and toolkit if you want the complete framework in one place.