Most people believe their mood is shaped by what happens to them. Someone says something upsetting or a mistake happens and they feel like the event itself causes the reaction. But something important happens in the middle of that moment. Before the reaction, there is usually …
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Most people think change requires big moves like a dramatic realization or bold declaration, maybe even a complete personality shift. …
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Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Why do I keep doing this?” right after criticizing yourself again? You promise you’ll stop …
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Most people believe they procrastinate because they’re lazy. They snap because they’re stressed, or they avoid because they’re unmotivated. They …
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Have you ever noticed how certain thoughts feel automatic and familiar? You miss a deadline and the thought appears: “I’m …
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Ever noticed how quickly your confidence drops after something small goes wrong? You miss a detail in an email, forget …
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You made a mistake and now the inner commentary won't stop. I know how that feels, I've been there. Even …
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For a long time I told the same story about myself without noticing it was a story. I was the …
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It's 11pm and I'm rewriting the same sentence for the fourth time, badly, in a notes app, because tomorrow I …
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When I was working towards fixing my negative self-talk I thought the best way to do it was to pick …
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Most people wait to feel motivated before they act and that’s where they get stuck. It feels logical. If you feel …
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One of the things I have found after working on my own self-talk for over two decades, and with others …
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Negative self-talk and imposter syndrome rarely appear out of nowhere. They usually grow quietly over time, shaped by experience, reinforced …
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Have you ever decided to do something new like apply for a role, start a project, speak up more, and …
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Have you ever tried to be kinder to yourself and immediately felt ridiculous? You catch a critical thought and attempt …
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Have you ever noticed that your inner critic seems louder than any praise you receive? You can complete something well, …
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In my 20s I was the queen of negative self-talk. I had a running commentary in my head that never …
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Have you ever had your mood change within seconds and nothing obvious happened? No argument. No bad news. No real …
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Most people think negative self-talk sounds extreme. They imagine harsh inner insults or dramatic statements like, “I’m a failure,” or …
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Have you ever woken up in a perfectly decent mood and lost it within ten minutes? Nothing dramatic happened. No …
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Something I have come to understand in two decades of working in personal development is that most people don’t need …
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